tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2017089181576705744.comments2021-02-20T05:43:02.905-05:00In the midst of life, we are in debt, etcPanichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03327474994924347087noreply@blogger.comBlogger385125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2017089181576705744.post-33655884826276379552013-02-28T19:10:47.776-05:002013-02-28T19:10:47.776-05:00It's very odd how I get that comment, that if ...It's very odd how I get that comment, that if I take issue with something I must be a failure at it. <br /><br />The last part of your comment is so lovely, it's a shame you had to begin with such snark. Panichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03327474994924347087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2017089181576705744.post-27003218351356972722013-02-27T22:47:11.730-05:002013-02-27T22:47:11.730-05:00He is totally surprising!! I love how he he horrif...He is totally surprising!! I love how he he horrifies me but then is all tender at the same time. I haven't read this one yet but One Bloody Thing After Another, and his new one that he's still working of that used to be called BibleCamp Bloodbath or something were just so...raw and sweet. Stephhttp://www.bellasbookshelves.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2017089181576705744.post-74291921091313667722013-02-18T12:19:13.107-05:002013-02-18T12:19:13.107-05:00Wow. You don't sound like a bitter failed arti...Wow. You don't sound like a bitter failed artist at all. <br /><br />So much of art isn't privilege. It's tenacity and doing it anyway. <br /><br />You could do it too, just start believing you can, and stop lashing out at the people who remind you that you haven't yet.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2017089181576705744.post-5100918514019270932013-01-27T19:05:34.582-05:002013-01-27T19:05:34.582-05:00Zwicky's in the club that passes around the aw...Zwicky's in the club that passes around the awards to each other, here, take your poetry award and here hubby your poems about a bird in a tree are descriptive, here's your Honorary Doctorate and an O of Canada.<br />Not allowing "negative" reviews while at the Fiddlehead is censorship, plain and simple. She's playing God from her lofty self centred heights. One poem I read by her seemed to have a spark of life in it, she mentioned a cowboy phrase, "up the draw" which indicated she may have put a book down for ten minutes to watch Hopalong or Roy Rogers. Benny Hartnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2017089181576705744.post-65226280824595064432012-12-09T16:04:55.834-05:002012-12-09T16:04:55.834-05:00"Just sexist, classist, racist bullshit"..."Just sexist, classist, racist bullshit". I will add misogynist in a full extent of the word, perhaps homosexual (no offense to the gay community), just saying he might be a repressed homosexual and definitely a fake writer all at once. (How somebody who has been dedicated to writing the last 20 years and has only written one tinny book can call himself a writer?). Posing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2017089181576705744.post-77818147837046410552012-11-04T19:58:55.218-05:002012-11-04T19:58:55.218-05:00Sounds like you need to suspend your judgements wh...Sounds like you need to suspend your judgements while reading a little more, than evaluate afterwards. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2017089181576705744.post-50803545329116472002012-11-02T10:20:26.888-04:002012-11-02T10:20:26.888-04:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2017089181576705744.post-45207974805660550402012-10-22T10:47:21.129-04:002012-10-22T10:47:21.129-04:00Beautiful. So jealous of that shirt, too. Beautiful. So jealous of that shirt, too. Karenhttp://lashesandstars.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2017089181576705744.post-11448871312807113792012-07-11T08:51:51.523-04:002012-07-11T08:51:51.523-04:00They are just parroting the words put in their mou...<i>They are just parroting the words put in their mouths by their male overlords. Not a very feminist viewpoint. Not a very fair one, either.</i><br />Agreed. We're not in anywhere near a post-feminist era, but the idea that I'm still so hypnotized by The Man is a bit ridiculous. There's also this whole notion that she's The One that has the total truth. Which I can't buy. That's a patriarchal system. There are multitudes.Panichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03327474994924347087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2017089181576705744.post-31240774570851916132012-07-10T17:24:20.948-04:002012-07-10T17:24:20.948-04:00The most troubling thing I found in the rabble art...The most troubling thing I found in the rabble article was the amount of words and contempt Murphy spent trying to undermine the agency of the women she claimed to be defending. Her argument seemed to be that all women who are into BDSM (or sex work, for that matter), are somehow broken, and so unable to speak their own opinions or act in their own interests. They are just parroting the words put in their mouths by their male overlords. Not a very feminist viewpoint. Not a very fair one, either.<br /><br />I've been on FetLife for about a year now. Being a gay male (well in the minority on FL), I perhaps have the outsider's viewpoint. And I can tell you this: the women run the place. Anybody whose ever been to one of the larger munches, or a Switch! party (or any of the other play parties in Toronto, to my understanding) will likely say the same thing. The idea that women are hapless victims in male BDSM fantasies, well . . . the guys who want things that way tend to be playing alone.Chrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12059193923730347609noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2017089181576705744.post-54013981457419675182012-07-10T16:04:51.144-04:002012-07-10T16:04:51.144-04:00Did you read Deleuze on Masoch? I did! I read Co...<i>Did you read Deleuze on Masoch? </i> I did! I read <i>Coldness and Cruelty </i> a couple years back, which is why it's so strange it took me this long to get to the source material. <br /><br />Thanks for the Weiss title.Panichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03327474994924347087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2017089181576705744.post-88824547535033959262012-07-10T16:02:15.703-04:002012-07-10T16:02:15.703-04:00I've been following this as well as the Bitch ...I've been following this as well as the Bitch series. It's quite true that BDSM is dependent on social inequalities for the tensions that make it appealing to practitioners. I think Margot Weiss focuses on this in her recent book, Techniques of Pleasure. It seems like the genderqueer aspects of BDSM get sidelined in the interest of focusing on relationships that are easier to mainstream (i.e. the one in 50 Shades of Gray). There's very little serious attention, for exmaple, to femdom relationships that aren't commercialized in some way. <br /><br />I also wrote about "Venus in Furs" on my blog: http://lashesandstars.wordpress.com/2011/09/20/book-review-venus-in-furs/<br /><br />Did you read Deleuze on Masoch? Very interesting, the contrast between Sadists/institutions and Masochists/contracts.Karenhttp://lashesandstars.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2017089181576705744.post-8163989518092465642012-07-06T16:36:50.028-04:002012-07-06T16:36:50.028-04:00why is critical equated with negative?
I think be...<i>why is critical equated with negative? </i><br />I think because sometimes people need the crutch of binaries. But I agree with you.Panichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03327474994924347087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2017089181576705744.post-88747137530904969772012-07-06T16:33:00.182-04:002012-07-06T16:33:00.182-04:00i don't understand any of this. why is critica...i don't understand any of this. why is critical equated with negative? isn't it a positive thing to write analytically about a piece of writing you think could have been better written?....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2017089181576705744.post-72288228035115765212012-07-04T00:16:17.552-04:002012-07-04T00:16:17.552-04:00Can't believe I missed this book. I think I...Can't believe I missed this book. I think I'll track it down. You are killing it with the Smiths/Moz references. Carry on!KarenBhttp://lashesandstars.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2017089181576705744.post-78735872245815658292012-07-01T18:06:55.565-04:002012-07-01T18:06:55.565-04:00Right? What the?! Clearly more coffee is indicated...Right? What the?! Clearly more coffee is indicated.Panichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03327474994924347087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2017089181576705744.post-26731389408115229032012-07-01T17:47:28.389-04:002012-07-01T17:47:28.389-04:00Well, he doesn't so much frame his response to...Well, he doesn't so much frame his response to Zwicky's essay around the CWILA as use it as a departure point for his main argument - that it is perilous to tell anyone, women or men, to avoid writing negative reviews for fear of hurting someone's feelings or taking the wind out of their creative sails. His (and my) point was simply that in telling us to "shut our mouths" Zwicky's injunction included women, wondering how women with a different view of negative reviews than hers would feel about that.<br /><br />Cheers...<br /><br />David<br /><br />(My worry is less with typos than with sentence structure)David Godkinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16263084959362933039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2017089181576705744.post-20512978377210131042012-07-01T09:59:30.618-04:002012-07-01T09:59:30.618-04:00"Nowhere does she make a special case for wom..."Nowhere does she make a special case for women" Indeed. And nowhere do I say she does. I do link to a post about women talking about women's writing, because I think it's relevant to the discussion, and another view on the topic.<br /><br /> My issue about that bit, is that Lista framed his response around the CWILA, says that more women need to write, and then -- and this is his phrasing, he puts it between "sisters" first -- says "a woman shouldn't say this to another woman". Gruh? Given the context Lista himself set up, that's a giant misfire.<br /><br /> Thanks for your comments!<br /><br />(Edited for just-got-up typos, there are probably still some there.)Panichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03327474994924347087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2017089181576705744.post-45039831438956771382012-06-30T20:24:10.842-04:002012-06-30T20:24:10.842-04:00Well, there are more than a few straw men argument...Well, there are more than a few straw men arguments here. Your largest argument hinges on reviews as "informational" vs. negative, though nowhere does Lista suggest that reviews should not provide information, just that the information should be useful (e.g. what books to avoid when slapping down your heard earned coin and why). Secondly, I doubt Lista is talking about truth with a capital T but truth in its many forms, including the hard truths about the books that cross our desk every day. Thirdly, it was Zwicky, who punctuated her critique with the rather startling injunction that we all “shut our mouths.” Nowhere does she make a special case for women. Sisters, if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it all.<br /><br />Far from being pragmatic one wonders how many books of poetry Zwicky would have us pore through before finding one about which we would feel “genuinely enthusiastic.” What about those books of poetry that have a handful of very good poems at the front, but miserable dreck in the rest of the book. If I pick up the book on the strength of the former only to stumble blindly into the latter, who should I blame for that if not the reviewer who soft pedaled her/his assessment?David Godkinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16263084959362933039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2017089181576705744.post-74726360569818385312012-06-14T08:27:27.106-04:002012-06-14T08:27:27.106-04:00Hi Emily,
Thanks for commenting, I'm glad you ...Hi Emily,<br />Thanks for commenting, I'm glad you liked it. I've been thinking about this whole phenomenon for a while. It's a really interesting moment for young women I think. There's some level of empowerment here that's surprising, and really great. :)Panichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03327474994924347087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2017089181576705744.post-22682667496981135252012-06-14T08:22:42.534-04:002012-06-14T08:22:42.534-04:00I'm happy to be divorced too. :)I'm happy to be divorced too. :)Panichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03327474994924347087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2017089181576705744.post-72194404288623654352012-06-14T07:10:22.196-04:002012-06-14T07:10:22.196-04:00I was never more alone than the years I was marrie...I was never more alone than the years I was married. I'm happy to be divorced, and I eagerly await the day my 20-year-old leaves home for good. <br /><br />BTW, I think your decision to not have children was a great one. I never wanted children, and having one did not change my mind: do not believe people who tell you otherwise. I do my very best, but parenting is far from fulfilling, and never has been. Being a parent does not define me: I have other roles in my life that are equally important. Biological reproduction is not the epitome of existence. So, yay you! I'm jealous.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2017089181576705744.post-11800170717273824822012-06-13T22:03:20.706-04:002012-06-13T22:03:20.706-04:00I completely 100% agree with you. I'm 23 and o...I completely 100% agree with you. I'm 23 and one of my girlfriends told me I should watch a James Deen movie, safe to say, I'm hooked. Your blog really summed up how I feel about James Deen and the media attention he's attracted as of late. The ABC Nightline segment was the most one-sided piece of bullshit "journalism" I have ever seen. Young boys have been watching porn since it was invented, is it really so disgusting and vile to have young girls watching it too?<br /><br />Thanks for this post! It's so refreshing to know that I'm not alone in my Deen crush :)Emily Louise Churchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11682376681783375451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2017089181576705744.post-69181245723907045092012-06-13T17:52:59.079-04:002012-06-13T17:52:59.079-04:00True. The book notes that it's often women who...True. The book notes that it's often women who are left alone after a partner dies, so it's not like getting married is going to help. Oy.Panichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03327474994924347087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2017089181576705744.post-18099322909184953432012-06-13T17:14:34.938-04:002012-06-13T17:14:34.938-04:00The thing to remember is that dying is an all-by-y...The thing to remember is that dying is an all-by-yourself process no matter what. All sorts of married people get discovered, rigor mortis setting in, half-slumped off a toilet. All sorts of married people get sick or demented and have to go into care homes where nobody visits.<br /><br />Point being: old age and dying are scary. But they're not any less scary if you're in a couple.Bretnoreply@blogger.com